Inhabit your goals. Don’t wait.

Hello there,

I’ve began and restarted this text many instances. Between getting on a flight, being in India with household, and getting the information of the sudden dying of an expensive buddy Aysha Griffin.

Rachel, Me and Aysha on the fitting, after we visited her in Santa Fe in 2012

Aysha was a author and entrepreneur who I met in Spain, again in 2007. We related by way of the writing neighborhood, hit it off instantly, and have been in contact ever since.

She was a free spirit, all the time dwelling her life to the fullest, and connecting and guiding folks on the way in which. She owns the google search time period “inhabit your goals” – should you Google it, her website is the primary consequence – and he or she embodied the time period.

Aysha Griffin, RIP, February 6, 2023

Ayesha was discovered lifeless in her condo in Sant Feliu de Guixois, Catalonia on February 6; my birthday. Not lengthy after her personal birthday on January 31. Explanation for dying was a coronary heart assault. I’m guessing she was in her late 50’s.

A couple of 12 months in the past she interviewed me about my guide which was all about having the braveness to comply with your goals; she was an enormous proponent of it. We have now been exchanging messages ever since. She was one in all my largest supporters of this text.

The explanation I’m sharing this with you right this moment is that it’s a harsh reminder that life is brief and we don’t know which day shall be our final.

“Glad Birthday! You are one 12 months nearer to dying.”

That is the beginning of an electronic mail I get on my birthday yearly from Ryan Vacation as I subscribe to his Daily Stoic. Not the nicest electronic mail to get up to, however a determined reminder that all of us want.

The Stoics believed that the considered dying ought to all the time be in your thoughts. It ought to offer you a way of urgency, and provide help to remove the inessential out of your life. It ought to decide the way you deal with folks, and anticipate to be handled. In his guide, Meditations, Roman emperor and Stoic thinker Marcus Aurelius wrote that “You can depart life proper now. Let that decide what you do and say and assume.”

As working mums, we’re recognized to pause our ambitions and prioritize the whole lot round us however ourselves. “I’ll do it tomorrow; I’ll do it when my son is 5; I’ll do it when I’m prepared.”

The reality is, tomorrow could not come and you’ll by no means be prepared.

“Most of us have two lives. The life we dwell, and the unlived life inside us,” writes Steven Pressfield in his guide the War of Art, a line that hit me like a rock after I heard it (audible).

So my message for you right this moment is, if there may be something you’re placing on maintain, press the play button now or you could by no means get the possibility to.

With all my love,

Abha x